You Will Become Him (I Have Become Him)
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wrenrwaters
- Jul 24
- 3 min
The Feeling I Never Expected To Feel
I have been married to my alcoholic husband for over 20 years now. (So hard to believe and comprehend where that time went.) I have felt...
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wrenrwaters
- Feb 25
- 1 min
Weekends Are The Hardest
I remember when the weekends were the hardest because he meant my alcoholic husband would spend two days drinking and being drunk. The...
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wrenrwaters
- Feb 23
- 2 min
Who Would You Be - If You Hadn't Married An Alcoholic?
I've spent a long time grieving who I have become as a result of my marriage. A long time mourning the loss of my soul. This marriage...
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wrenrwaters
- Feb 9
- 4 min
What's The Pain For?
I was trying to mentally "list" the losses I have had over the course of my adult life. Not for any macabre or victim-claiming exercise...
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wrenrwaters
- Feb 6
- 3 min
DON'T TAKE AS LONG AS I DID
I have a friend who is also married to an alcoholic. In fact, her husband and mine are eerily the same in regards to behavior and...
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wrenrwaters
- Dec 31, 2022
- 3 min
He May Get Sober (But Probably Not)
What a way to ring in the new year, right? A doom and gloom post about eternal alcoholism. My apologies but on occasion, I will get a...
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wrenrwaters
- Nov 8, 2022
- 2 min
The Myth (Lie) of the "Functioning" Alcoholic
There are a lot of terms and concepts attached to alcoholism that I find particularly problematic. "Co-dependent" and "detach with love"...
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wrenrwaters
- Nov 3, 2022
- 2 min
You're Missing More Than You Know
The great irony (one of them, anyway) of being married to an alcoholic is it's not "that bad..." And then suddenly it is. You can manage,...
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wrenrwaters
- Oct 25, 2022
- 1 min
It Is THAT Bad
My husband is verbally abusive. I'm embarrassed to acknowledge how dismissive I have become of that. Most days, he's here physically but...
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wrenrwaters
- Oct 13, 2022
- 2 min
It Will Never Be Done...
Til I make it done. If ANYONE had EVER told me how hard it would be for me to extract myself from a marriage to a toxic alcoholic, I...
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wrenrwaters
- Oct 3, 2022
- 1 min
I Hate Who I Have Become
I hate who I have become as a result of my marriage. I am an angry, volatile, raging person. But mostly on the inside. This is a problem....
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wrenrwaters
- Sep 29, 2022
- 1 min
Sometimes...
I just hate my life so fucking much. I don't know any other way to put it. I just hate my fucking life. I don't even think I can blame...
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wrenrwaters
- Sep 20, 2022
- 1 min
It's The (Verbal) Sucker Punches That Hurt The Most
There is a lot that hurts about being married to an alcoholic. A. Lot. But perhaps some of the most painful, destructive, toxic behavior...
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wrenrwaters
- Sep 5, 2022
- 2 min
So It's A Holiday
I have a friend - and she is a good friend - but everything is so dramatic in her life. Good, bad - anything in her life - is described...
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wrenrwaters
- Aug 31, 2022
- 3 min
What I Have To Tell You
I've been married to an alcoholic for over 20 years now and yet I still remember, too astutely, the pain and utter hopelessness of the...
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wrenrwaters
- Jul 18, 2022
- 3 min
What I Finally (Finally, Finally, FINALLY!) Know
When I decided to start a blog, my idea was to be that voice in the middle of the night - the one I once looked for out of desperation...
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wrenrwaters
- Jul 11, 2022
- 2 min
A New Look For A New Focus
It's taken me over 20 years to get here. To a place, The place, where I no longer define myself by my marriage to an alcoholic. For as...
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wrenrwaters
- Jun 21, 2022
- 3 min
Don't Worry: People Won't Be That Surprised
I was on Facebook the other day - which is not a regular thing for me - and saw a post from the wife of an alcoholic who said ( to...
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wrenrwaters
- Jun 19, 2022
- 1 min
Happy Father's Day?
Happy Father's Day? It's more a question than a statement in the alcoholic household, isn't it? How do you celebrate a father that isn't...
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