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One Day It Will Be Too Late
He will win. The alcoholism will win. The despondency and the grief. The anger and the regret. Oh the regret. They will all win but...
wrenrwaters
Aug 29, 20244 min read
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You Will Become Him (I Have Become Him)
Someone messaged me and asked if things had gotten better, worse or stayed the same with my husband and his drinking. This is what you...
wrenrwaters
Aug 24, 20233 min read
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The Feeling I Never Expected To Feel
I have been married to my alcoholic husband for over 20 years now. (So hard to believe and comprehend where that time went.) I have felt...
wrenrwaters
Jul 24, 20233 min read
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Weekends Are The Hardest
I remember when the weekends were the hardest because he meant my alcoholic husband would spend two days drinking and being drunk. The...
wrenrwaters
Feb 25, 20231 min read
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Who Would You Be - If You Hadn't Married An Alcoholic?
I've spent a long time grieving who I have become as a result of my marriage. A long time mourning the loss of my soul. This marriage...
wrenrwaters
Feb 23, 20232 min read
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What's The Pain For?
I was trying to mentally "list" the losses I have had over the course of my adult life. Not for any macabre or victim-claiming exercise...
wrenrwaters
Feb 9, 20234 min read
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DON'T TAKE AS LONG AS I DID
I have a friend who is also married to an alcoholic. In fact, her husband and mine are eerily the same in regards to behavior and...
wrenrwaters
Feb 6, 20233 min read
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He May Get Sober (But Probably Not)
What a way to ring in the new year, right? A doom and gloom post about eternal alcoholism. My apologies but on occasion, I will get a...
wrenrwaters
Dec 31, 20223 min read
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The Myth (Lie) of the "Functioning" Alcoholic
There are a lot of terms and concepts attached to alcoholism that I find particularly problematic. "Co-dependent" and "detach with love"...
wrenrwaters
Nov 8, 20222 min read
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You're Missing More Than You Know
The great irony (one of them, anyway) of being married to an alcoholic is it's not "that bad..." And then suddenly it is. You can manage,...
wrenrwaters
Nov 3, 20222 min read
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It Is THAT Bad
My husband is verbally abusive. I'm embarrassed to acknowledge how dismissive I have become of that. Most days, he's here physically but...
wrenrwaters
Oct 25, 20221 min read
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It Will Never Be Done...
Til I make it done. If ANYONE had EVER told me how hard it would be for me to extract myself from a marriage to a toxic alcoholic, I...
wrenrwaters
Oct 13, 20222 min read
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I Hate Who I Have Become
I hate who I have become as a result of my marriage. I am an angry, volatile, raging person. But mostly on the inside. This is a problem....
wrenrwaters
Oct 3, 20221 min read
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Sometimes...
I just hate my life so fucking much. I don't know any other way to put it. I just hate my fucking life. I don't even think I can blame...
wrenrwaters
Sep 29, 20221 min read
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It's The (Verbal) Sucker Punches That Hurt The Most
There is a lot that hurts about being married to an alcoholic. A. Lot. But perhaps some of the most painful, destructive, toxic behavior...
wrenrwaters
Sep 20, 20221 min read
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So It's A Holiday
I have a friend - and she is a good friend - but everything is so dramatic in her life. Good, bad - anything in her life - is described...
wrenrwaters
Sep 5, 20222 min read
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What I Have To Tell You
I've been married to an alcoholic for over 20 years now and yet I still remember, too astutely, the pain and utter hopelessness of the...
wrenrwaters
Aug 31, 20223 min read
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What I Finally (Finally, Finally, FINALLY!) Know
When I decided to start a blog, my idea was to be that voice in the middle of the night - the one I once looked for out of desperation...
wrenrwaters
Jul 18, 20223 min read
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A New Look For A New Focus
It's taken me over 20 years to get here. To a place, The place, where I no longer define myself by my marriage to an alcoholic. For as...
wrenrwaters
Jul 11, 20222 min read
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Don't Worry: People Won't Be That Surprised
I was on Facebook the other day - which is not a regular thing for me - and saw a post from the wife of an alcoholic who said ( to...
wrenrwaters
Jun 21, 20223 min read
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